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Comment by Kristin Rafferty on February 20, 2012 at 10:12pm

Marni, keep in mind I am guilty as charged of being on sites like FB way too much.  Sometimes I have secret fantasies of deactivating such accounts, but the hilarious thing is for work related reasons, I actually MUST be on these sites.  Yes, you DID read that correctly.  I won't go into detail about my work, but it really honestly is true.  So while "normal" people have to sneak on FB at work and hope they don't get in trouble, I'm at work (sometimes) while on these silly sites.  My "facebook"?  REAL life!  LOL!  Due to that in addition to high cost, I refuse to ever get a "smart phone".  

Comment by Marni E. Goldberg on February 20, 2012 at 10:08am

I agree, Kristin. I'm so consumed by the computer each day that playing in the garden, getting some much deserved sun, and enjoying the fresh air is such a welcomed opportunity. And I do prefer fresh flowers to Farmville flowers any day. The whole listing your relationship status is only necessary to ward off people because I'm not sure how many people go in for the "kill" when they read someone is "single". I think dating sites are best suited for that.

Comment by Kristin Rafferty on February 20, 2012 at 5:51am

*correction: "...Just be aware IF..." [not "of"]

Comment by Kristin Rafferty on February 20, 2012 at 5:46am

This is why I sometimes hate Facebook and also why I never list any status no matter what.  Lately various people I know and I have noticed many glitches on the site.  It could be that FB is doing a lot of beta-testing, or it could be that FB is just glitchy in general.  Lately the glitches are so bad, one isn't sure if one has been added as a friend, de-friended, both, neither, on purpose, due to a FB glitch, or how things look on another one's page.  This can be problematic for the many reasons you are predicting.  Why complicate matters more on such a glitchy ever-changing site by needing to worry about "relationship status"?  I make friends with people regardless of their relationship status.  If I know you well enough, I probably already know you are dating, married, or even that it might be complicated.  If I feel like adding your partner, I will eventually figure out who that person is because I've met this person while in your company and/or I notice the two of you trolling one another's pages with cutesy comments and lots of "likes".  It's also possible you my friend have a FB page and your partner in fact does not.  If THAT'S the case, I bet you have THE healthiest relationship EVER because FB has the potential for drama and hurt feelings; intentional and often not.  You get to have your stupid FB addiction of keeping in touch with random people you may or may not actually know while your partner gets to go outside and get some fresh air and plant flowers to pick later and romantically bring to you in a couple of months.  I have a feeling that's much better than a Farmville flower.  Just be aware of you are the partner who prefers the company of actual dirt as opposed to fake virtual gardens.  Hide anytime people you know whip out cameras and iPhones because whether you like it or not, you might STILL end up tagged on some stupid FB page, and with your luck, your friend lacks Photoshopping skills and so you look like crap.  Maybe that's a good excuse to wear that Guy Fawkes mask while gardening.