This is for the failures. The losers, the defeated and non-winners. If you've ever fallen in your life, this one's for you.
GET UP! So, you messed up a project. Failed an exam and have to repeat a class. I did that twice! But I don't bother counting how many times I've had to re-take exams. This isn't about me. This isn't that much about you either. But if you've struggled with an achievement, here's why you need to read on.
Life is cyclical. Anyone can tell, everyone has different ways of explaining it. Everybody fails. The ones who succeed aren't the ones who stop failing. That's nonsense. Everyone who succeeds, carries on fighting problems. Whether new, old or a mixture of both. The only way you'll never have problems again, is if you're six foot below. We can't tell what's in the after-life, too, so I guess we're pretty much screwed. We aren't, though. That's the point! It's how you look at it, that matters. More than often, a little change in perception, yields big changes in outcome. One loss today, several wins tomorrow – but would you really have won then, if you thought you were a loser?
Losses. Failures. Defeats. Downfalls. These words are labels, only important for one thing: to make you Acknowledge your current predicament without denial. They make you view yourself objectively. If you're a loser, they make you say, 'OK. You know what? I'm a loser. I suck at this.' Therefore, you don't from it. It doesn't matter what you may have lost in, is. It could be a task, a situation, whatever, but what you need to do thereafter is ask yourself honestly, 'Now, how do I get out of this? How can this work?'
That's it! That's ALL those words are good for, nothing else! Abraham Lincoln once said, 'My great concern is not whether you have failed – but whether you are content with your failure.' There's another quote of equal profoundness from Steve Davis that goes, 'It may not be your fault for being down, but it is your fault for not getting back up.'
Is your life changing? 'Cause they shook mine. Maybe you heard of him, maybe you don't – if you're in business, it makes sense to read his books. Management guru Peter F. Drucker's quote is thus, 'What you have to do and the way you have to do it is incredibly simple. Whether you're willing to do it, that's another matter.' Applicable to all, not just business. It applies to you because your life is your business! So what's it gonna be, huh? You gonna be a failure? Think because you lost at something, you're a total loser? Or, my personal favorite, can't do something, 'because it's never been done before!'. Sure you can. For one, you can stop comparing yourself to the rest who wallow in their pity, limit the dramatic labels to a situation and not your entire life and begin from a point of pro-action! Do It!
Life is hard. We don't know what to compare it to, but we know it. We can just tell. That, nonetheless, is life and simply in knowing such, life thereby becomes bearable. And when something becomes bearable, you can overcome the difficulties with grace and shine through. So, you stick it out. And when you persevere, you reduce things to a numbers game. When it comes down to and you slug it through a numbers game, you WIN!
50 Cent – Get Up
'A problem is something I can do something about.'
'You can't stretch your limits without encountering serious obstacles along the way.'
Dr Jerry Lynch (PhD)
'Failure and losses are acceptable learning experiences that can help improve your performance.'
'To the present hour we both hunger and thirst, and we are poorly clothed, and beaten, and homeless. And we labor, working with our own hands. Being reviled, we bless; being persecuted, we endure'
I Corinthians 4:11-12 (abridged)
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